THE CRUELTIES OF STEWART TRAILL

In the 27 years since our ministry began in 1987, and during the years that we participated in Cobu since 1975, we have witnessed and have been told about many cruelties that were extended by Stewart Traill and we who at one time acted as his followers.

On this page we list some of the cruelties that we've been able to identify.

To become free from the grip of anything negative in ones life, we believe a first step is a willingness to expose them and once identified to lift them up in prayer, to he who has the power to free us from their negative influence.

These are words of freedom and words of peace and redemption, to expose the awful things that devour and keep some captive to the belief that Cobu and Stewart Traill were respectable and honorable, when the truth is that it was a corrupt society and these cruelties show the ungodly things we submitted to, in the hope that we might become free from any residual bondage to the group we were part of, that was led by the tyrant Stewart Traill.

Next to some of the cruelties that we list here, we've also included scriptures that reflect an opposite, contrary, or positive expression related to the negative expression that was experienced or viewed in Cobu. These scripture references are in blue and the RSV (Revised Standard Version of the Bible) was used. Observations and comments are added in brown.

Some brothers and sisters did not even realize how much the cruelties they experienced or viewed someone else experiencing influenced their view of what is acceptable Christian behavior and what is unacceptable.

Some brothers and sisters who left Cobu found that they chose churches and fellowships that had similar legalistic attitudes that were expressed in Cobu.

We hope that including scriptures that show a view that opposes the cruelties that we accepted while in Cobu, and some continue to accept now that they have left Cobu, can benefit you in being able to challenge the thoughts and beliefs that had become the norm for us and have continued to linger in many of our beliefs.

Although many of us viewed similar things, we all may not have seen every example listed in this section. This section has been compiled by the testimonies we've heard that have been shared with us at prayer meetings or emails or those who struggled to overcome the residual impressions made on those who were part of Cobu or the Forever Family during various years. Due to the many contributions by many different people, some cruelties may be repeated due to different remembrances of the same experience, some may be slightly different, but we have no problem being inclusive, rather than trying to edit out one persons experience over another's, so if you recognize one comment being made more than once, it is due to it having been expressed repeatedly.

If you read a "cruelty" here that you witnessed while you were in Cobu or even if you participated in expressing one or more of these cruelties, we challenge you to lift it up in prayer. We were counseled prophetically to lift up the shameful things that devour, that the Lord our God might free us from their negative affects.

If you had experienced or viewed something in Cobu that you feel would qualify as "a cruelty" and you do not see it listed here, please feel free to forward what you feel should be included to our email address: info@freefromthegrip.com, thank you.

When we had more success than Stewart did, yet he would mock us and not give us approval anyway, it was a cruelty.

~ Isa 58:3 Behold, in the day of your fast you seek your own pleasure, and oppress all your workers.

When Stewart would walk into meetings with the sisters that we had crushes on, that was a cruelty.

~ Jer 31:13 Then shall the maidens rejoice in the dance, and the young men and the old shall be merry. I will turn their mourning into joy, I will comfort them, and give them gladness for sorrow.

In scripture God wants his people to have joy, but Stewart Traill had no concern for our interests, and he worked to prevent us from having any joy.

~ Psa 84:11 For the LORD God is a sun and shield; he bestows favor and honor. No good thing does the LORD withhold from those who walk uprightly.
~ Pro 3:27 Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.
~ Pro 3:28 Do not say to your neighbor, "Go, and come again, tomorrow I will give it"--when you have it with you.
~ Pro 3:29 Do not plan evil against your neighbor who dwells trustingly beside you.
~ Pro 3:30 Do not contend with a man for no reason, when he has done you no harm.

It was a cruelty of Stewart Traill to work us like his own personal slaves, preventing us from having joy and would then condemn us for the very dismal oppressions that he leveled on us.

Pro 12:10 A righteous man has regard for the life of his beast, but the mercy of the wicked is cruel.

When we would try and defend ourselves and he would openly laugh at us and get everyone else to laugh as well, that was a cruelty.

~ Psa 119:122 Be surety for thy servant for good; let not the godless oppress me.

When Stewart would mock our personal habbits and weaknesses in front of everyone, that was a cruelty.

~ Rom 15:1-2 We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves; let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to edify him.

Stewart Traill was not interested in edifying us as the scripture counsels and our Lord Jesus gave example, and he also taught us this behavior also.

When we joined him in laughing at another, were we not condoning his poor example?

~ Rom 15:3 For Christ did not please himself; but, as it is written, "The reproaches of those who reproached thee fell on me."

When Stewart would make overt negative statements, like: "The older brothers can't do anything right." causing us to look down on ourselves, that was a cruelty.

~ Rom 12:3-5 For by the grace given to me I bid every one among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith which God has assigned him. For as in one body we have many members, and all the members do not have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.
~ Rom 12:6 Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us.

When Stewart used our human weaknesses against us and made it seem like we couldn't be Christian, that was a cruelty.

~ Heb 4:15 For we have not a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.

When Stewart refused to allow us to date or have relationships, while he flaunted his happy marriage to Gayle in front of us, that was a cruelty.

~ Eze 34:2 "Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel, prophesy, and say to them, even to the shepherds, Thus says the Lord GOD: Ho, shepherds of Israel who have been feeding yourselves! Should not shepherds feed the sheep?

When all we wanted was to spend time with him and get to know him better and he refused to allow it, that was a cruelty.

~ Rom 12:9-10 Let love be genuine; hate what is evil, hold fast to what is good; love one another with brotherly affection; outdo one another in showing honor.

When he made everyone feel as though "we weren't faithful" if "we weren't close to, or in fellowship with him" when he didn't give most of us the time of day, that was a cruelty.

~ Tit 3:2 to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all men.

When Stewart would arrive at meetings extremely late and make grand entrances while we were waiting for him to show up, that was a cruelty.

~ Php 2:3 Do nothing from selfishness or conceit, but in humility count others better than yourselves.

When Stewart insisted that he was worthy of all of our respect and admiration, when for the most part he took advantage of us financially and personally, that was a cruelty.

~Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

When Stewart would select a sister and "bring her into his confidence" only to sit in front of all the other sisters and whisper to her and mock us to his selected "confidant" that was a cruelty.

~ Psa 35:19 Let not those rejoice over me who are wrongfully my foes, and let not those wink the eye who hate me without cause.
~ Psa 35:20 For they do not speak peace, but against those who are quiet in the land they conceive words of deceit.

When sisters traveled from NY city all the way to Princeton for a sisters meeting and instead of greeting us and being considerate of our having traveled, he had us sit on his front lawn while he looked through a pile of magazines, totally ignoring us, that was a cruelty.

~ Php 4:3 And I ask you also, true yoke-fellow, help these women, for they have labored side by side with me in the gospel together with Clement and the rest of my fellow workers, whose names are in the book of life.

When one of the older sisters, in great trepidation, said that she needed to use the bathroom, and Stewart made a big deal out of it, asking if we brought our own toilet paper, that was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill was not interested in "helping" those who spent their labors for the needs of the body, his interests were only for himself ~ this was cruel and selfish.

It was cruel of Stewart to do these negative behaviors over and over again before all of us, yet we still extended to him our respect and treated him with honor, when he was dishonorable toward us.

~ Psa 35:26 Let them be put to shame and confusion altogether who rejoice at my calamity! Let them be clothed with shame and dishonor who magnify themselves against me!

It was cruel of Stewart to openly condemn brothers and sisters without talking privately to them, as the scripture counsels.

~ Mat 18:15 "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.

It was cruel of Stewart to take pleasure in condemning brothers and sisters at meetings who had no conviction of sinning against anyone, he just enjoyed being harsh infront of us.

~ Rom 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to claim that Cobu was "God's best" when he polluted it in his inability to extend the peace and blessings of God, as he perpetuated evil by condemning the guiltless.

~ Mat 12:7 And if you had known what this means, 'I desire mercy, and not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the guiltless.

It was cruel of Stewart to talk kindly to you privately and then condemn you publicly, a behavior that he displayed many times.

~ Jas 3:10 From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brethren, this ought not to be so.

When Stewart would mock all of us and say over and over again that we'd never get married, that was a cruelty.

~ Isa 62:5 For as a young man marries a virgin, so shall your sons marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.

It was a cruelty that so many of the blessings of God were withheld from those who committed their lives to Christ in Cobu, because Stewart Traill, as it's leader, discouraged relationships.

When Stewart found out someone was interested in someone else he would prevent their relationships by sending one to a fellowship in another state or Haiti, that was a cruelty.

~ Lam 3:36 to subvert a man in his cause, the Lord does not approve.

When Stewart said, "The brothers don't stand a ghost of a chance to marry." that was a cruelty.

~ 1Co 7:28 But if you marry, you do not sin, and if a girl marries she does not sin.
~ Pro 3:30 Do not contend with a man for no reason, when he has done you no harm.

When brothers and sisters who had enough and left the fellowship and he didn't care and that was a cruelty.

When Stewart was continually harsh and condemning toward brothers and sisters who were providing all of his monetary needs, that was a cruelty.

~ Tit 3:2 to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all men.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about speaking evil of no one.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about avoiding quarreling.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about being gentle.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about showing any courtesty at all.

When Stewart would mock anyone who had the nerve to get up during one of our meetings when we needed to use the bathroom, that was a cruelty.

~ Pro 3:27 Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about extending good to the brothers and sisters.

Stewart Traill did not reflect in the slightest bit any of the examples clearly recorded in scripture of the early apostles and the kindness that they extended to those in their charge, that was a cruelty.

~ Rom 1:11-12 For I long to see you, that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to strengthen you, that is, that we may be mutually encouraged by each other's faith, both yours and mine.

Stewart Traill treated brothers and sisters unkindly, yet he expected us to treat him as though he was above reproach.

~ Jas 4:12 There is one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you that you judge your neighbor?

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about letting anyone know that he was glad to see them, as the brothers in the Bible always let those in their charge know.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about imparting spiritual gifts to the brothers and sisters.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about allowing the spiritual gifts of others to be promenant at any meetings.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about having any humility about his gift of teaching.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about making others feel strengthened.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about mutually encouraging anyone.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about not being judgmental of others.

Stewart Traill would make grand assumptions and grand comparisons of himself and Moses or Elijah or other notable men of God, when he hardly acted with any godliness, humanity, or humility, was cruel and shameful.

~ Psa 59:12 For the sin of their mouths, the words of their lips, let them be trapped in their pride.

Stewart Traill's inability to see how his grandios gestures and self-inflating comments were charachteristics of someone with a bi-polar disorder was a cruelty we were subject to.

~ 1Ti 6:4 he is puffed up with conceit, he knows nothing; he has a morbid craving for controversy and for disputes about words, which produce envy, dissension, slander, base suspicions...

When Stewart kept all of us up until the wee hours of the morning and if any who needed to get up early for work had the audacity to leave and he'd mock them, that was a cruelty.

When Stewart would say, "bye, bye" to anyone who needed to leave a meeting, but said it in a mocking tone, rather than being kind to someone who was at our meeting was cruel.

When Stewart would practically insinuate that someone "wasn't faithful to Jesus" just because they needed to leave one of our meetings early, was cruel.

When Stewart made people who needed to take a break and use the bathroom after commanding all of our attention for hours on end, was cruel.

When Stewart would be openly irritating toward a sister who needed to leave the meeting because her infant needed to be fed or attended, that was cruel.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to expect everyone to hang on his every word for hours on end.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to insist on total control of all conversation during meetings and rarely had the curtesy to extend the speaking floor to anyone else.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to belittle those who made attempts to contribute during meetings, as he would discredit the contributions of so many, that eventually few even offered.

~ Tit 3:2 to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all men.

Having an inability to even recognize how many of Stewart Traill's behaviors towards us during meetings represented someone who was extremely insecure and demonstrated separation anxiety frequently was a cruelty toward we who felt compelled to comply to his needs.

Stewart Traill was known to get others to join him in mocking those who made attempts to contribute at meetings, was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill's behavior in general of looking down on others and puffing up his own self worth before all of us was a cruelty.

~ Rom 12:3 For by the grace given to me I bid every one among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith which God has assigned him.
~ Rom 12:4 For as in one body we have many members, and all the members do not have the same function,
~ Rom 12:5 so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.
~ Rom 12:6 Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about not thinking highly of himself.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about respecting the gifts and strengths of brothers and sisters.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about commending the gifts and strengths of the brothers and sisters.

Starting Cobu, that was a cruelty.

The way that Stewart Traill provoked the brothers against the sisters, that was a cruelty.

The way that Stewart Traill pitted the sisters to make provoking comments to the brothers, that was a cruelty.

The way that Stewart Traill seemed to thrive on sewing discord among us all the time, that was cruel and ungodly behavior.

The way that Stewart Traill set brothers against brothers, and sisters against sisters, without even a care at how doing this was cruel and a poor example of Christian conduct.

The way that Stewart Traill monopolized the time and strength of fathers and mothers, so that their children went without their much needed time and attention, was a cruelty.

The way that Stewart Traill discouraged providing the little children with toys, because we had so little money to expend on what he considered "frivalty" while he indulged any interest he had with very expensive "toys" (camera's, planes) purchased with money we earned, was a cruelty.

~Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to expect everyone in the fellowship to serve him for nothing.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to have complete control over the earnings of everyone else.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to expect everyone else to provide for all of his financial needs.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was take all the money that we earned, when we had no say over how it was spent and he did.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill counseled mothers not to nurse their infants because it would prevent them from being available to attend his meetings or earn money.

~ Joe 2:15, 16 Blow the trumpet in Zion; sanctify a fast; call a solemn assembly; gather the people. Sanctify the congregation; assemble the elders; gather the children, even nursing infants.
~ Lam 4:3 Even the jackals give the breast and suckle their young, but the daughter of my people has become cruel, like the ostriches in the wilderness.
~ Lam 4:4 The tongue of the nursling cleaves to the roof of its mouth for thirst; the children beg for food, but no one gives to them.
~ Isa 49:15 "Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you.
~ Isa 49:16 Behold, I have graven you on the palms of my hands; your walls are continually before me.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to prevent young mothers from spending time with their infants.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to involve himself with the intimate choices of those who were married.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill made negative slights against husbands in front of their wives and at meetings, like saying that a brother hadn't skipped any meals when he put on extra weight.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill made negative slights against women in front of others when they put on extra weight, partly due to stress or having to eat high carb meals on the run.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to involve himself with influencing every choice of our waking hours.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill said that to leave his meeting was us "breaking fellowship" and was most inconsiderate and harsh.

The way that Stewart Traill encouraged the attitude of not extending forgiveness, primarily shown by housing some in a "trip apartment" which made others fear to make any confessions, was a cruelty.

Just having a "trip apartment" was a testimony that there was no forgiveness in Cobu, which was counter-scripture and a cruelty.

Stewart Traill's insistence on making further separations among us, was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill took all of the older brothers, who had been leaders of households in the centers and were well respected by many, and labeled them "the dirty dozen" was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill did not take kindly to the older brothers who seemed to have many who respected and looked up to them, so his answer was public condemnation, a cruelty.

~ Tit 3:2 to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all men.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to invade our personal boundaries.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to foist his own voice and his own interests on everyone, in the "name of" pleasing God.

Stewart Traill's need to subject everyone to himself and dress everyone else down, was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill's brilliant idea to turn the color code against us and make us sit in color coded boxes was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill's brilliant idea to make a "black box" to exclude those who he deemed "faithless" was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill's inability to recognize how much the things that he approved of were distructive and hurtful to the brothers and sisters and he didn't seem to care, was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill's mandates often were very far from the biblical examples, for instance, in scripture Jesus taught that to have someone be restored to faith was a reason to rejoice, like finding the one who went astry, whereas Stewart seemed to proclaim loudly when someone was weak and took pleasure in open humiliation, rather than giving opportunities to be restored to fellowship, this was a cruel way to conduct our fellowship.

Stewart Traill many times projected on us things he was guilty of, this was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill would get us to wear things that we had no conviction of, yet Stewart would twist our thinking to accept whatever put down that he expressed, this was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill would come into a meeting where everyone had been happily fellowshiping together among ourselves, and then make us feel as though we were "doing something wrong" this was a cruelty.

Stewart Traill would proclaim loudly that "he was the only one doing right" when all of us were providing all of his financial needs of food, clothing, and housing, this was cruel of him.

Stewart Traill said of many who left, "That they were just bitter!" Yet isn't it a cruelty to oppress, provoke and irritate the people of God in his charge making them bitter and then to turn around and call them bitter!?

When someone has left the group and feels the need to discuss what they experienced that still causes them stress to this day, and others say, "You should just move on." is a cruelty.

If they had the ability to "just move on" don't you think they would have?

Our lives in Cobu stressed our hearts. The scripture says,

~ Mat 12:34 For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.

Why would someone prevent another from confessing what is on their heart?

Isn't this what God does ~ listens to us?

Shouldn't we listen to one another, if one has a need to be heard?

Isn't this why there are therapists and counselors?

To tell someone who is hurting to "just move on" is not kind or helpful, it's like saying: "Shut up."

Interesting that they have no insight into how you can accomplish this "just move on" counsel.

Interesting to note that those with the loudest request of telling others to "just move on" are the very ones who've been the most active on the xcobu sites ~ if they've "just moved on" themselves, why do they have such a need to stay connected on the "xcobu" sites?

~ Mat 15:14 Let them alone; they are blind guides. And if a blind man leads a blind man, both will fall into a pit."
~ Deu 27:18 "'Cursed be he who misleads a blind man on the road.'

If you are not willing to listen to someone in need of your ear, what right do you have to tell them to do something that they haven't thus far had the ability to accomplish on their own?

Anyone who has a need to be heard please send us an email at : info@freefromthegrip.com and we will be more than willing to listen to whatever you have a need to share.

And we will lift up to God the troubles of your heart, as he has been most faithful in removing the stresses that we have had the faith to confide.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to proclaim his own loyalty and faithfulness, when he later admitted to "missing the grace of God" or Jesus, and that he was therefore a blind guide all along.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill and Cobu to deny God's people of love.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about the love of God and he therefore could not extend what he never knew, so where did he get the right to insist that we give him our devotion.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill and Cobu to deny even our most basic needs.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to tease the flock by telling them that he was going to "go to the north pole to live" ~ whereas Jesus reassured:

~ Jn 14:18 "I will not leave you desolate; I will come to you.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to create "the trip apartment" ~

~ Rom 8:38,39 For I am sure that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about being reassuring to those in his charge.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to label those who were providing for him financially as "trips."

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to not extend forgiveness toward those whose only fault was believing the scripture that said to "confess their sins to one another and pray for one another" who he labeled "trips."

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to ostrasize some of those who were in our fellowship, while he openly did countless evils with no remorse, confession, or shame.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to force everyone to sit in color coded boxes, labeling brothers and sisters as "living in sin" (black), living "for the flesh" (brown), as Christians (orange), as leaders and examples (silver) or above reproach (gold) [only Stewart & Gayle] ~

~ Rom 14:4 Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Master is able to make him stand.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to judge us.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to flaunt his wife scantily dressed in front of the flock as he prevented dating and marrying.

~ Mat 25:40 'Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brethren, you did it to me.'

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about how unjust it was for him to provoke the brothers and sisters to jealousy.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to teach that Jesus was harsh when, in truth it was he who was harsh.

~ Mat 11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

It was a cruelty that Stewart Traill did not know the first thing about Jesus, who extended rest for our souls, yet under Stewart Traill none of us knew any rest, and our souls were bereft of peace under Stewart Traill's obligatory lifestyle.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to expect everyone to have no marriage, no children, no time to invest in the things that we were interested in, just so that we could be slaves of Stewart's interests.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to live in luxury, while we lived in roach and rat infested apartments that had lousy locks, even the world looked down on him for this.

~ Hos 12:7 A trader, in whose hands are false balances, he loves to oppress.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill who taught that it was better to be right than loving, when the Apostle Paul taught in:

~ 1 Co 13:1 that without love you're just a noisy gong

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill who taught that it is better to be harsh than soft yet we see in:

~ Pro 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to make the brothers and sisters stay up to the wee hours of the night when they had to go to work early the next day, while he could sleep in and get up at his leisure.

~ Php 2:3 Do nothing from selfishness or conceit, but in humility count others better than yourselves.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to expect grown men and women to hand over their entire earnings ~

~ Mal 3:5 "Then I will draw near to you for judgment; I will be a swift witness against... those who oppress the hireling in his wages...and do not fear me, says the LORD of hosts.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to obligate us to sit on the cold, hard floors at meeting after meeting, for hours on end.

~ Job 6:14 "He who withholds kindness from a friend forsakes the fear of the Almighty.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and sit there in silence, causing an oppressive atmosphere.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, as though we were always doing something wrong.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, as though we were unfaithful to God, when none of us felt that way before he arrived.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, as though we were insignificant to him.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, without kindness, as he posed as a man of God, when he was just an exploiter of our youth.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, without kindness, as he posed as a man of God, when he was just an exploiter of our strength.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, without kindness, as he posed as a man of God, when he was just an exploiter of our affections.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, without kindness, as he posed as a man of God, when he was just an exploiter of our insecurities.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, without kindness, as he posed as a man of God, when he was just an exploiter of our time.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, without kindness, as he posed as a man of God, when he was just an exploiter of our belief that he was a man of God, even though he didn't act anything like the men of God in the Bible.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to enter meetings as though he and his wife Gayle were better than everyone else there, even though we earned all the funds that provided for all of his and the fellowships needs.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and treat all of us, who were there, who were providing all of the groups financial needs, contemptuously.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and oppress everyone by being unkind to all of us.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and oppress everyone by being unkind to individuals in front of everyone else.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and bring his dismal forboding attitude and blame all of us for that feeling, even though all of us didn't feel that way until he arrived.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and act as though he had some ultraspiritual insight that none of us were privy to, yet his meetings were hardly uplifting in any way.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to come to meetings and put on a show, but the show was never any good, and all of us seemed to perpetuate the lie that it was something good.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to treat everyone harshly when we provided all of his financial needs and paid for all of his earthly passions, that we had no freedom to obtain.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to expect all of us to give up all of our earnings, which forced grown men and women to sleep in sleeping bags on the floor, while he used funds we earned to stay in hotels and eat out in restaurants.

~ Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to take all of the money we earned so that even if we wanted to leave, we didn't even have enough to get a bus ticket out.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to prevent mothers the opportunity to spend time with their own infants as he held everyone hostage to his meetings of oppression.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which was contrary to the teaching of the Bible.

~ 1Ti 4:1-3 Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by giving heed to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons, through the pretensions of liars whose consciences are seared, who forbid marriage and enjoin abstinence from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which he could have very easily encouraged, but instead he used it to mock us.

~ Pro 3:27 Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which he could have very easity extended acceptance, yet he preferred to watch brothers and sisters squirm, while he prevented relationships by separating anyone who tried to start one.

~ Pro 3:28 Do not say to your neighbor, "Go, and come again, tomorrow I will give it"--when you have it with you.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which he had no interest in having our lives become healthy and hopeful, we were easier to control when we were disappointed and discouraged, a condition he liked to keep us in.

~ Pro 3:29 Do not plan evil against your neighbor who dwells trustingly beside you.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused an over all feeling of unattractiveness.

~ Pro 3:30 Do not contend with a man for no reason, when he has done you no harm.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though their natural desires were unimportant.

~ Lam 3:36 to subvert a man in his cause, the Lord does not approve.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel was wrong.

~ Pro 13:12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is inappropriate.

~ Mt 9:13 Go and learn what this means, 'I desire mercy, and not sacrifice.' For I came not to call the righteous, but sinners."

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is something that only Stewart Traill and some who were already married were able to have, but for the majority of those in the fellowship it was something outside of our reach.

~ 2Co 1:20 For all the promises of God find their Yes in him. That is why we utter the Amen through him, to the glory of God.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is something that they'd have to hide, or suffer objection over.

~ Mt 12:7 And if you had known what this means, 'I desire mercy, and not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the guiltless.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is "just a fantacy" that they needed to turn their hearts and minds away from.

~ Psa 17:10 They close their hearts to pity; with their mouths they speak arrogantly.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is "just a desire of their flesh" that "they need to put to death" in order to be "faithful to Jesus."

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is something that they should be ashamed of.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is something that God didn't extend to them.

~ 1Co 9:5 Do we not have the right to be accompanied by a wife, as the other apostles and the brothers of the Lord and Cephas?

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is something that they would need to find outside the group.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel is something that caused sisters to be uncomfortable when men on their jobs gave them attention.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel toward a brother or sister was something that would never be allowed, so why even try.

~ Psa 69:20 Insults have broken my heart, so that I am in despair. I looked for pity, but there was none; and for comforters, but I found none.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel could be mocked openly, as Stewart mocked others who made attempts to begin relationships.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might feel was something that they needed to crush within themselves, rather than take steps in faith to pursue.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to feel as though any natural interest that they might have was to be denied, discouraged, mocked, ridiculed, condemned, or forced to separate by others in the group.

~ 2Pe 2:19 They promise them freedom, but they themselves are slaves of corruption; for whatever overcomes a man, to that he is enslaved.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to be ill equipt to counsel people who got saved and were younger than us, and already married or in relationships themselves.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to envy those who weren't saved and had freedoms that we didn't have.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused the sisters to feel as though there was no hope to becoming mothers or having a family of their own.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to think that they were unworthy of having intimate relationships with each other.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to begin relationships with those outside the group in secret, and then have to confess that they sinned.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to have sexual frustration that led to masterbation, something else to confess as having sinned.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men to have testicular pains that their doctors counseled them that they would have no relief from unless they masterbated, which in Cobu was considered to be "physical sin" and the main reason some were confined to the trip apartment.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men to feel guilty for following their own doctors advice to get relief from overwhelming pain in their bodies through masterbation.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to have sexual frustration that led to the brothers seeking out prostitutes, a sin that needed to be confessed and turned from.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to have sexual frustration that led to shame and feelings of never being able to obtain satisfaction in that area of our lives.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships in the fellowship which caused grown men and women to have sexual frustration that led to many committing themselves to someone who wanted to spend time with them and later left to marry, even though in some circumstances these marriages were entered into hastily and some ended in devorce.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships to the point that the majority of the brothers and sisters had no confidence to pursue their own natural interests and desires to be in a relationship.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships to the point that the majority of the brothers and sisters had no confidence to even ask God to bless them with a romantic relationship.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships to the point that the majority of the brothers and sisters had no confidence or faith to pursue anything that wasn't "approved" by Stewart or the rest of the body.

~ 1Co 7:28 But if you marry, you do not sin, and if a girl marries she does not sin.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships to the point that the majority of the brothers and sisters boldly cursed any who had the audacity to attempt to start a relationship in Cobu.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships to the point that the majority of the brothers and sisters were shocked if any decided to go against the status quo and have a relationship, that was taboo, and led many to leave.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships to the point that the majority of the brothers and sisters were unable to even relate to the many scriptures that are addressed to "husbands" "wives" "mothers" and "fathers" because it does not apply to those who are left in Cobu, who have never had the privilege to be: husbands, wives, mothers or fathers.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to forbid marriage and relationships to the point that the majority of the brothers and sisters have become too old to even have children and still have not had a relationship since they were young, before they got saved.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to prevent relationships that he could have easily encouraged.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships that were meant to be experienced in peace by those who know peace.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships that were meant to be experienced with joy.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships that were meant to be things that we could thank God for giving us.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships so that men and women who desired to please God were made to feel guilty for the natural desires given to us by God.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships causing men and women not to have the confidence to walk by their own faith.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships causing men and women not to have the confidence to stand up for the desires that God put within their own hearts.

~ Psa 78:63 Fire devoured their young men, and their maidens had no marriage song.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships causing men and women not to have the confidence to stand up to the harsh edicts that Stewart Traill put forth against us.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships causing men and women who desired to please God to have an inabilty to trust in their own inclinations.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships and covet the attention of the most attractive sisters around himself, so that brothers who were interested in them had no access to them at all.

~ 1Co 9:5 Do we not have the right to be accompanied by a wife, as the other apostles and the brothers of the Lord and Cephas?

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships between brothers and sisters just because he had an unnatural desire to control everyones most intimate area of our lives.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships that caused the sisters not to have any trust in the affections that brothers wanted to extend to them.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships, encouraging sisters to make derrogatory comments to the brothers to further his end game, the biggest game player of us all.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships that caused a host of hurt, discouragement, frustration, irritation, and unhappiness in almost every aspect of our lives.

~ 2Co 3:17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships that caused us to envy those who had them, envy those who had children, and envy those who we were trying to lead to Christ, but in reality we were just leading them into the unnatural life that we were living.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships that might have made our fellowship more attractive to those who came to visit our meetings, but instead our group just appeared to be "strange" by those who came to check it out.

~ 2Co 1:19 For the Son of God, Jesus Christ, whom we preached among you, Silvanus and Timothy and I, was not Yes and No; but in him it is always Yes.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships that was one of the "chips" that made it seem as though "Stewart was blessed by God" and we were not, since he not only had a wife and children, but all these attractive sisters living with him.

~ 1Co 9:5 Do we not have the right to be accompanied by a wife, as the other apostles and the brothers of the Lord and Cephas?
~ Mt 23:4 They bind heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on men's shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with their finger.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships because he wanted us to be available to keep working and making money for his lusts and interests.

~ Gal 2:4 But because of false brethren secretly brought in, who slipped in to spy out our freedom which we have in Christ Jesus, that they might bring us into bondage--

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships and fool everyone into thinking that he was a godly man, yet he has proven to be a very worldly man.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships when he cared nothing for anyone elses needs or interests.

~ 1Pe 2:16 Live as free men, yet without using your freedom as a pretext for evil; but live as servants of God.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to prevent marriage, when in the scripture entering heaven was compared to entering marriage ~ which since it was prevented, it was an aspect of the joy God has for us that was not made available to we who were in Cobu, who "supposedly" were "God's best."

~ Mt 25:40 And the King will answer them, 'Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brethren, you did it to me.'

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to curse relationships when he cared nothing for the personal growth of our faith in areas that we were restricted from by him.

~ Gal 5:1 For freedom Christ has set us free; stand fast therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to put us in the possition that anything we did that did not have his "approval" we felt was wrongdoing, so that everything we did of our own volition seemed like sin, because we had no faith to do it.

~ Rom 14:23 But he who has doubts is condemned, if he eats, because he does not act from faith; for whatever does not proceed from faith is sin.

Stewart Traill put us in the position that anything we did without his personal stamp of approval made us feel as though we had sinned, because we only had faith in what he approved, this was a cruelty.

~ Heb 11:6 And without faith it is impossible to please him.

Taking a step in faith has to do with taking steps outside of what is comfortable and taking steps into "the unknown" ~ yet everything we did in Cobu were the things that Stewart Traill directed us "to do" ~ this is not faith, this is walking according to someone elses directives ~ because Cobu was a place where we were expected to follow Stewart Traill's guidlines, the whole basis of Cobu was a place where faith did not exist and therefore it was impossible to please God in Cobu, which was a great cruelty.

Furthermore, it can also be considered "a godless society" when one is listening to the thoughts, opinions, and counsel of a man and not God; even if the group spends a lot of time reading and study the word of God or the Bible, doesn't make the society a godly one.

~ Heb 11:6 And without faith it is impossible to please him. For whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.
~ Mat 7:22 On that day many will say to me, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?'
~ Mat 7:23 And then will I declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from me, you evildoers.'

Conclusion: Cobu was a "faithless society" because everyone was walking and talking according to what "Stewart said was appropriate" or "approved." this was a cruelty

a newly married sister, just in the blush of her wedding and was in a car accident, she lost her husband instantly, she wakes up in the hospital fighting for her own life, unable to even go to her husbands funeral and the comfort she received from Gayle Traill, "Now, now, you didn't even know him that long." This is mean spirited, unkind, pathetic, thoughtless, heartless, cold, insensitive ~ yet this was typical of the way we were treated by God's "supposed best" the sister that Stewart Traill claimed was "near perfect" yet the way she spoke was another cruelty.

When one of the sisters I was close to was about to give birth and was in labor, she called Gayle Traill, who she had been talking with regularly and thought she was a friend who would be supportive while going through something challenging and all Gayle did was ask, "Are you reading the workbooks to her?" The sister was shocked and thought that Gayle must not know what one goes through when they are about to give birth, but they certainly are not about to listen to or read a religious workbook. The sister who called said, "NO! She's having a baby, we can't read the workbook now! That's not going to help!" Gayle started berating her, saying this is what you should be doing. The sister, realizing how obsurd her advice was admitted: "I wish I hadn't even called."

Then Gayle said, "Oh, so now you're mud slinging." The sister was stunned quiet and said she had to go and never called Gayle again. So eye opening, who was insulting who? Gayle had nothing to offer and when called out on it, became accusatory. Yet, Gayle was considered, according to Stewart Traill at his notorious "no Grace meeting" or "I missed grace meeting" or "God hid grace from me, meeting" that Gayle was "practically perfect," ~ Not!

Gayle Traill was known to be extremely condescending to everyone. She came off very hauty, snotty, and as if "she was better than everyone else." ~ "the gold standard"

It was a cruelty that brothers and sisters turned in their entire earnings and were only given 10 dollars a week allowance for ourselves as we worked to support Stewart Traill's empire ~

~ Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages;
~ Rom 4:4 Now to one who works, his wages are not reckoned as a gift but as his due.

It was a cruelty that while we labored to support the entire church and all of it's needs: including Stewart Traill's rents, food, clothing, property taxes for all owned buildings, and aircrafts purchased; Stewart Traill then turned to us and said that we were scum, and sadly, we did not have the self esteem to oppose his cruel slights and harsh jestures.

~ Pro 10:18 He who conceals hatred has lying lips, and he who utters slander is a fool.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to insist that we invest in a foreign country that we knew nothing about.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to insist that we become missionaries, when we had no training to do so.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to insist that we invest in a foreign country, while those in your charge have below poverty housing.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to insist that we invest in his comfort, while those in your charge have below poverty housing.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to invest the funds that we earned on things for himself rather than on making the lives of those in the flock better.

~ Lev 19:13 "You shall not oppress your neighbor or rob him. The wages of a hired servant shall not remain with you all night until the morning.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to call meetings and then just sit there watching all of us meander around while we waited for him to lead us, when in truth he did not want to lead, but by his actions proved that his main interest was to rob from us the funds that we earned.

~ Pro 21:6 The getting of treasures by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor and a snare of death.
~ Pro 21:2 Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the LORD weighs the heart.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to teach us that no one was born again until they went to heaven and then later said that it was a joke, and blamed the brothers for not stopping him.

~ Psa 24:3,4 Who shall ascend the hill of the LORD? He who has clean hands and a pure heart, who does not lift up his soul to what is false, and does not swear deceitfully.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to cause others to do his dirty work.

~ Pro 6:12-15 A worthless person, a wicked man, goes about with crooked speech,winks with his eyes, scrapes with his feet, points with his finger, with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; therefore calamity will come upon him suddenly; in a moment he will be broken beyond healing.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill not to allow any of us to save any money that we earned.

~ Lev 19:13 "You shall not oppress your neighbor or rob him. The wages of a hired servant shall not remain with you all night until the morning.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to cut us off from our families.

~ Mat 19:19 Honor your father and mother, and you shall love your neighbor as yourself."

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to prevent and discourage us from visiting our own families.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to abuse those in his charge

~ Mic 2:8 But you rise against my people as an enemy; you strip the robe from the peaceful, from those who pass by trustingly with no thought of war.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to obstruct relationships between grown men and women.

~ Jer 29:6 Take wives and have sons and daughters; take wives for your sons, and give your daughters in marriage, that they may bear sons and daughters; multiply there, and do not decrease.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to mock the brothers and sisters.

~ Rom 12:3 For by the grace given to me I bid every one among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith which God has assigned him.
~ Rom 12:4-6 For as in one body we have many members, and all the members do not have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to degrade and ridicule husbands and wives publicly.

~ Jas 4:11 Do not speak evil against one another, brethren. He that speaks evil against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to humiliate Larry A and Karen S in front of everyone at a Big Meeting, just because they had the faith to enter into a relationship with each other ~ even though after their humiliation they bearly had the faith to lift up their heads among us. It caused Larry to leave and Karen was never the same. Larry's own mom called a brother and said that she didn't know what kind of Bible teacher Stewart Traill claimed to be, but the open humiliation of her son was unforgivable and harsh beyond words.

~ Pro 3:30 Do not contend with a man for no reason, when he has done you no harm.
~ Mic 2:8 But you rise against my people as an enemy; you strip the robe from the peaceful, from those who pass by trustingly...

Stewart Traill had no right to openly humiliate this couple who he berated and crushed. A gentle and kind brother and the sister he was attracted to. This was probably the worst example of the abuse of authority that Stewart did without remorse. He seemed to make an example of them, that others should take note and not take a chance in faith and begin a relationship or they too might be treated harshly in front of everyone in the fellowship. It was an example of depraved indifference to so brazenly destroy the faith and confidence of a brother and sister, for acting on the desire of their own hearts.

~ Lam 3:36 to subvert a man in his cause, the Lord does not approve.
~ Pro 13:12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.
~ Pro 22:22 Do not rob the poor, because he is poor, or crush the afflicted at the gate;
~ Eze 34:4 The weak you have not strengthened, the sick you have not healed, the crippled you have not bound up, the strayed you have not brought back, the lost you have not sought, and with force and harshness you have ruled them.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to openly humiliate and condemn Rick and Mary after their wedding at a Big Meeting, making a harsh judgment instead of commending their act of faith. They were a couple since they were in high school, got saved together and after years of giving their strength and money earned to Cobu they decided to get married. They had a simple outdoor ceremony attended by their families and many brothers and sisters, yet when they attended their first meeting after they got married Jimmy made some gesture toward them and right away Rick and Mary both stood up and announced that they had gotten married, and seemed a bit nervous as anyone would be with the way that Stewart seemed to live to make our lives more stressful.
Instead of making a kind gesture or giving them any words of encouragement Stewart Traill said something like, "All I know is if the man isn't proud about it and if the sister is seems ashamed about it, there has to be something wrong with it."
Stewart was notorious for making harsh judgments on everyone but himself.
Stewart wouldn't commend something that he feared others would follow suit and get married too.
For a man who wanted everyone to look up to and respect him, he didn't seem to have a kind bone in his body, and his words were sour about anyone but himself.

~ Lam 3:36 to subvert a man in his cause, the Lord does not approve.
~ 1Co 7:28 But if you marry, you do not sin, and if a girl marries she does not sin.
~ Pro 3:30 Do not contend with a man for no reason, when he has done you no harm.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to reveal things disclosed privately by those in his charge, during meetings with everyone else.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to tell brothers and sisters that they were "good soil" one day and the next day in front of others to tell them that they were "bad soil"

~ Jas 3:10 From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brethren, this ought not to be so.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to not give anyone a day off when they were working seven days a week.

~ 1Ti 6:9-10 But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and hurtful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is the root of all evils; it is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced their hearts with many pangs.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to say that if we reached a financial goal that you would give us a day off, when he knew it was too high and could never be reached.

~ Psa 105:14-5 he allowed no one to oppress them; he rebuked kings on their account, saying, "Touch not my anointed ones, do my prophets no harm!"

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill not to work at all, while we worked every day.

~ 1Ti 5:8 If any one does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
~ 2Th 3:6 Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you keep away from any brother who is living in idleness and not in accord with the tradition that you received from us.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to delight in seeing the flock suffer, that the Lord entrusted to you.

~ Pro 2:13 who forsake the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways of darkness, who rejoice in doing evil and delight in the perverseness of evil;

It was cruel of Stewart Traill when he told us that we were not faithful to Jesus, without any explanation.

~ 1Ti 6:20, 21 ... guard what has been entrusted to you. Avoid the godless chatter and contradictions of what is falsely called knowledge, for by professing it some have missed the mark as regards the faith. Grace be with you.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to make negative assertions about us that he got us to believe.

~ Rom 16:17 I appeal to you, brethren, to take note of those who create dissensions and difficulties, in opposition to the doctrine which you have been taught; avoid them.
~ Rom 16:18 For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by fair and flattering words they deceive the hearts of the simple-minded.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to blame us for his failures.

~ Psa 15:1-4 O LORD, who shall sojourn in thy tent? Who shall dwell on thy holy hill? He who walks blamelessly, and does what is right, and speaks truth from his heart; who does not slander with his tongue, and does no evil to his friend, nor takes up a reproach against his neighbor; in whose eyes a reprobate is despised, but who honors those who fear the LORD; who swears to his own hurt and does not change.

This scripture sounds nothing like the Stewart Traill that we all had the misfortune to sit under.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to expect us to live in the lofts, where there was a lack of privacy for the married ones or even the most basic housing needs.

~ Act 20:28 Take heed to yourselves and to all the flock, in which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God which he obtained with the blood of his own Son.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to expect the brothers and sisters to live in horrible living conditions.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to use the funds that we earned to live extravagantly himself, while we who made those funds lived in bad neighborhoods, poor housing, and overcrowded living situations.

~Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

It was cruel of Stewart to make a public spectical of anyone who needed to use the bathroom during a meeting, publicly humiliating anyone who got up to do so.

It was cruel of Stewart to expect everyone to sit for hours before him, without having any consideration for us.

It was cruel of Stewart to be so controlling of everyone.

It was cruel not to speak to us for long periods of time at meetings, causing everyone to feel as though they were doing something wrong.

It was cruel to call brothers and sisters names when all they were trying to do was help you.

It was cruel of Stewart to insult a sister who was chubby for volunteering, after he asked for volunteers and pointed in the direction this sister was sitting in, and said, "Come 'ere." Thinking he was referring to her, she got up and as she came closer he said to her in front of everyone else, "Not you dummy!" as if she wasn't smart enough to realize that he wouldn't be interested in her "assistance" and Stewart thinks that he's "a godly man!" Another sister he drove to tears, when all she wanted to do was "answer his call."

It was cruel of Stewart not to recognize how ungodly he is.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to be nasty to us and then said that "this is from the lord."

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to take away the right of the poor and needy.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to sell 515 and not give the sisters adequate time to find a place to live and left them on the streets to fend for themselves.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill when brothers and sisters would follow his wishes to the letter and he still found fault with them and said "they can't follow simple instructions."

It was very cruel of Stewart Traill to say upon hearing that one of the sisters, who contributed to our fellowship financially for many years, upon her passing on from cancer, he said of her, "Well, she wasn't that faithful anyway." As if she didn't even matter.

It was cruel to realize that only "the lovely" were considered "faithful" instead of what was the actual truth: that all of us contributed to the financing of Stewart Traill's lusts.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to say that we were programmed for success, when we were doomed for failure by him.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to crush the human talents of those in his charge.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to smash the spiritual gifts of those in his charge.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to violate verbally, emotionally, and physically those in his care.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to make we who were saved by God to be his slaves.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to abuse the sheep that were in his charge.

Teaching end times bible studies like Mt 24 to scare us into thinking we needed you.

Putting us at competition with each other.

When we did exactly what you told us to do you still wouldn’t say we had done well.

By stealing God’s glory.

By attacking anyone who stood up to you and then mocking us for not speaking up.

For not letting us go to the bathroom in peace.

For making us feel guilty all the time.

By replacing God’s grace with works and pseudo spiritual clap trap.

By teaching us that we had to figure everything out in our heads rather than trusting in God.

By lying about the nature of God.

Making those who are humanly meek feel they are by nature displeasing to God.

Making all of us feel we had to be in each other’s face about sin when Jesus died for sin.

Once you got a reputation in Cobu you couldn’t get rid of it. So much for your sins being thrown in the sea of forgetfulness.

~ Mt 18:21,22 Then Peter came up and said to him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven.

~ Lk 17:4 and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, and says, 'I repent,' you must forgive him."

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to create an unforgiving society that he called "God's best."

~ Heb 11:6 And without faith it is impossible to please him. For whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to create a society where there was continual suspicion.

~ Tit 3:2 to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all men.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to create a society where everyone looks down on themselves inwardly.

~ Rom 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to create a society where no one has a sense of God's love for them.

~ Tit 3:2 to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all men.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill, who was in complete control of our society, to act as though he had nothing to do with "our fellowship" when he was the one who was the comander in chief.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to create a society where having Stewart's acceptance equals God's acceptance.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to be extremely stingy with any acceptance of brothers and sisters in our fellowship.

~ Rom 15:7 Welcome one another, therefore, as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to create a society where everyone feels perpetual shame, something that God's people should be free of.

~ Heb 11:16 But as it is, they desire a better country, that is, a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared for them a city.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to discourage any interest that wasn’t beneficial to him.

~ Jud 1:16-19 These are grumblers, malcontents, following their own passions, loud-mouthed boasters, flattering people to gain advantage. But you must remember, beloved, the predictions of the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ; they said to you, "In the last time there will be scoffers, following their own ungodly passions." It is these who set up divisions, worldly people, devoid of the Spirit.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us feel that God was constantly displeased with us.

It was cruel of Stewart to drive us crazy with his constant Pharaoh "make more bricks" mentality.

It was cruel of Stewart to publicly glory in numbers and mock those who didn’t get numbers to come to meetings.

It was cruel of Stewart to expect the brothers to go alone to cities to start fellowships.

It was cruel of Stewart to put down openly: a brother who opened a fellowship on his own in a city and brought 25 to a Big Meeting!

It was cruel of Stewart to make great expectations, yet still oppress those who met them!

It was cruel of Stewart to make everyone else subject to impossible obligations that he was not subject to himself.

It was cruel of Stewart to be a total hypocrite and live one way while expecting all of us to live another.

It was cruel of Stewart to not tell us his "precious" testimony.

It was cruel of Stewart to hide who he was, while at the same time flaunting his selfishness with funds procured by everyone else.

It was cruel of Stewart to take church funds to build his camera business.

It was cruel of Stewart to build his businesses, of which he kept the profits, off the back of free labor.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us feel we had to be perfect to be acceptable to God.

~ Rom 5:6 While we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.
~ Rom 5:8 But God shows his love for us in that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us.

It was cruel of Stewart to claim that he and Gayle were above reproach, when in truth they were both very condescending and unapproachable.

It was cruel of Stewart to make an environment where people feared to ask for basic needs like underwear, while you flew around in planes purchased and maintained by our labors.

It was cruel of Stewart to laugh at us when we were hurting.

It was cruel of Stewart to make oppressive exectations that caused the men and women of God to hurt.

It was cruel of Stewart to mock us before the entire group and teach us to also be disrespectful.

~ Tit 3:2 to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all men.

It was cruel of Stewart to change our understanding of the nature of salvation totally after the grace meeting.

It was cruel of Stewart to say you were the only one "saved."

It was cruel of Stewart to say that you were the only one who was the "gold standard."

It was cruel of Stewart to say that you were the only one with "the zeal" to be married.

It was cruel of Stewart to get brothers and sisters involved in your plot to both justify your divorce and to take your children from their mother, Shirley.

It was cruel of Stewart to not personally care for Gayle after your car accident, but putting her care off on others, disregarding marriage vows.

It was cruel of Stewart to proclaim that because of Gayle's disability after your accident that "it was as though" you are no longer married.

It was and is cruel of Stewart to live unchaperoned with very young women, the 15-20 year old daughters of the flock.

It was cruel of Stewart to make sisters fear sexual advances in your darkroom, while claiming that you are "a man of God" and not a base fellow who panders to his flesh.

It was cruel of Stewart to get off on making others fear in general.

It was cruel of Stewart to get off on our discomfort.

It was cruel of Stewart to get off on getting over on those in his charge.

It was cruel of Stewart to get off on hiding what he was into, while pulling the wool over our eyes.

It was cruel of Stewart to count himself better than everyone else.

~ Php 2:3 Do nothing from selfishness or conceit, but in humility count others better than yourselves.

It was cruel of Stewart to tell us that "we were a cult" and "he wasn’t part of our cult" even though he was the “eye” of the fellowship and the active controller of our obligations.

~ Lk 11:34 Your eye is the lamp of your body; when your eye is sound, your whole body is full of light; but when it is not sound, your body is full of darkness.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us take the heat from the negative press we received, while following the directives you put forth.

It was cruel of Stewart to have brothers beat his child, in the name of "discipline."

It was cruel of Stewart to hide and let the brothers who got arrested for beating his child while not owning up that it was he who ordered it to be done.

It was cruel of Stewart to compell us to do things that were questionable humanly as he undermined our own natural inclinations.

It was cruel of Stewart to make it plain that anyone who left his church was backslidden, while our behaviors within the group were more than questionable.

It was cruel of Stewart to make our lives so miserable that leaving without a dime to our names was preferable to staying in his "house of shame" that he claimed was "God's best!"

It was cruel of Stewart to say that if we left his church we were "just playing church games."

It was cruel of Stewart to lead us to believe that destruction was preferable to church games.

It was cruel of Stewart to be unclear on what "church games" actually were.

It was cruel of Stewart to wave his hand at anything he didn't agree with and call it "church games."

It was cruel of Stewart to insist that everyone leave their centers where they were pretty happy to come and live in filth and despair at the (MTC) Manhattan “training” center.

It was cruel of Stewart to love having us make spectacles of ourselves publicly and to teach us that this was the height of faithfulness to God.

It was cruel of Stewart to tell us when we were sad and wiped out that all we needed to do was: "Just go and do a few zeal pills" (hand out tracts).

It was cruel of Stewart to bring others into his house of pain, shame, and humiliation.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us feel that it was wrong to be in touch with our pain.

It was cruel of Stewart to say we were either working or wailing so that when you were hurting you couldn’t even utter it because you knew you would just be told you were wailing.

~ Jn 13:14,15 If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another's feet. For I have given you an example, that you also should do as I have done to you.
~ Jn 13:35 By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another."
~ Jas 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man has great power in its effects.

It was cruel of Stewart to Lord his "supposed great teaching skills" over us.

It was cruel of Stewart to on one hand claim that "he missed grace" while on the other hand to expect complete subserviance to his every whim and expectation.

It was cruel of Stewart to Lord his "supposed all seeing eye" over us.

It was cruel of Stewart to make the sisters "long for him" and then dole out his affections like a miser, only giving them crumbs.

It was cruel of Stewart to make the sisters "long for him" when he had no intentions of giving 95 percent of the sisters any attention at all.

It was cruel of Stewart to oppress the sisters closest to him with positive attention privately and negative attention in front of others.

It was cruel of Stewart to make the sisters "long for him" and taught them to reject any other brother’s advances.

It was cruel of Stewart to condemn we who were of age (over 25) not to have any romantic relationships with each other.

It was cruel of Stewart to prevent relationships, prevent marriage, and to oppress everyone with unrealistic human conditions.

It was cruel of Stewart to flaunt provacative photos of Gayle at our meetings while he mocked us for not having relationships, after he prevented them.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that "we were in the dark" if we left to get married.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us feel that our own children were a waste of our time and a burden that only kept us from the work.

It was cruel of Stewart to say that our children were all like little snakes.

It was cruel of Stewart to mock love as weakness.

It was cruel of Stewart to mock anyone who stood up for someone in pain.

It was cruel of Stewart to say we were "looking for a mother" or that the sisters were "mothering" the brothers.

It was cruel of Stewart to get us to be cruel to one another, which was hardly motherly at all.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to speak hurtfully to each other.

It was cruel of Stewart to compell us to create a language that was obviously unChrist like, yet say we were "God's best!"

It was cruel of Stewart to make us feel that anything wrong in our group was all our fault, meaning the brothers and sisters.

It was cruel of Stewart to be in charge of everything, yet take responsibility for nothing.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to be harsh to our children, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to be harsh to our husbands, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to be harsh to our wives, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to be harsh to our families, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to be harsh to animals, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to be harsh to our each other, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to be cruel in the name of the Lord, as he was cruel to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to be obnoxious to the unsaved, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to push the unsaved to get them to convert, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that Jesus approved our harsh behaviors, as he was harsh to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that it was Jesus' will for him to be abusive.

It was cruel of Stewart to use the Bible as a battering ram, as he was harsh to us with his teachings of it.

It was cruel of Stewart to use the Bible as a cludgen, using all the negative Bible verses to make us do his bidding.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that our manhood was something that was worthless.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that our womanhood was something that was worthless.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that our relationship with God was something that was worthless, compared to our relationship with him, which was non-existent for the most part.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that our own desires were worthless, and that only his interests counted for anything.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that our brothers were worthless and that being married to one would be as foolish as marrying "Mikey Mouse."

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that we were worthless, while all of us were providing for each and every physical need of his.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that having any hope in the concept of "house and home and family" was something that was worthless and beneath us, however unattainable.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us not to have anything more to do with our own parents and brothers and sisters, counseling us to cut ourselves off from them.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us not to have positive relationships with each other, so that our lives were very dreary at best.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to separate ourselves from the world physically and none of us were even allowed to own televisions, so that we were even more cut off.

It was cruel of Stewart not to allow us to ask questions of him.

It was cruel of Stewart to get all of us to hang on his every word, while at the same time teaching us to look down on ourselves which contradicted the word of God.

~ Jer 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, says the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

It was cruel of Stewart to curse us by denying the validity of our own interests, hearts desires, and to insult our personal intelligence.

It was cruel of Stewart to put us to work as he squandered the money we earned on his own passions, as he cursed us without sensor.

~Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

It was cruel of Stewart to diminish our own God given thoughts and feelings, as he forced upon all of us his own dribble and expectations that made us lothesome to most people.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us that we were "spiritual giants" in the world, when in truth we knew very little of the things that reflect spirituality: joy, peace, patience, kindness or goodness.

~ Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness..

It was cruel of Stewart to make us miserable and then ridicule us for being miserable.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us miserable and then ask us why we were miserable.

It was cruel of Stewart to take away any shred of ability to have any sense of worth or selfconfidence, in his continual onslaught of critism of us.

It was cruel of Stewart to tell us that we didn't have a ghost of a chance to be married, after he successfully conquered our selfesteem.

It was cruel of Stewart to humiliate all of us and then blamed us for not getting married.

It was cruel of Stewart to constantly condemn us, as though even Jesus would think the same of us.

It was cruel of Stewart to condemn us in the name of Jesus without even telling us what our wrongs were.

It was cruel of Stewart to insinuate negative things of us by using phrases like, "You know what you're doing!"

It was cruel of Stewart to fill our minds with false guilt, when in truth we were just plain exhausted.

It was cruel of Stewart to take out of our ear the voice of Jesus and put his own voice in its place.

It was cruel of Stewart to forbid us from hearing the voice of the Lord, because his expectations rang too loudly.

It was cruel of Stewart to forbid the brothers and sisters to have any hope of getting married with his approval.

It was cruel of Stewart to forbid walking by faith, because anything done that was not "Stewart approved" was condemned openly.

It was cruel of Stewart to impose upon the brothers and sisters of the fellowship that every curse upon us that he uttered was said by devine inspiration and should be trusted above else.

It was cruel of Stewart to instill negative thoughts in our minds that many were unable to shake free from after they left.

It was cruel of Stewart to say that he was not our "pastor" when he insisted on guiding us in every imaginable way.

It was cruel of Stewart to say that he was "not our king" when every behavior he displayed took on a "king-like" flavor.

It was cruel of Stewart to arrive late at meetings and make "grand entrances."

It was cruel of Stewart to expect everyone to pay homage to him.

It was cruel of Stewart to have access to the royal funds that everyone else earned.

~Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

It was cruel of Stewart to have access to all our money so that he could buy whatever he desired.

It was cruel of Stewart to treat everyone in the fellowship as they were his own court jesters, or those he had the freedom to ridicule at will.

It was cruel of Stewart to treat all the young women of our group as though they were his own personal harem, having young women dangling on his arm wherever he desired to take them.

It was cruel of Stewart to flaunt his wife in front of the brothers and sisters, while at the same time preventing any of us from having relationship.

It was cruel of Stewart to provoke the brothers and sisters by having a condescending demenor.

It was cruel of Stewart to always be insinuating some wrong doing on our parts, when he didn't have the slightest idea what we were about.

It was cruel of Stewart to make negative assumptions of others who he didn't care to even speak to personally.

It was cruel of Stewart to fondle his wife in front of the brothers and sisters, with a smirk on his face as if to say, "Look what I can do and you can't."

It was cruel of Stewart to take church funds and go to Haiti when there were many problems that went untended in our own church in the US.

It was cruel of Stewart to turn brothers and sisters away when they sought counsel from him about legitimate concerns.

It was cruel of Stewart to say to those who sought him out, "Go talk to the brothers and sisters" as though anyone else would dare give any positive response to someone he turned away.

It was cruel of Stewart to forbid others from going to college nor to pursue higher education, including his own children.

It was cruel of Stewart to expect us to work the Christian Brothers business 7 days a week without having even one day off, while he didn't work at all.

It was cruel of Stewart to give us his phoney view of Jesus, we lived in a grace-less society.

~ Jn 1:14 And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, full of grace and truth; we have beheld his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father.

It was cruel of Stewart to crush council at the grace meeting.

It was cruel of Stewart to not open the floor for others to speak freely, he blamed others for his failure, he expected everyone to go on as always, while he blamed God and everyone else for what he failed to recognize, on day two instead of acting in any humility he was harrassing in his attitude.

It was cruel of Stewart not to allow the brothers and sisters to express their opinions freely after he admitted having an unChrist-like basis for over 25 years.

It was cruel of Stewart to say to the brothers and sisters at the grace meeting that you only wanted constructive criticism, when you didn't accept any criticism at all.

It was cruel of Stewart to have brothers and sisters come to a meeting and make them sit there for hours and not speak to them at all ~ this was a general practice for the graceless teacher Stewart Tanner Traill.

It was cruel of Stewart to rub supposed sins in the face of the brothers and sisters, when they didn't commit wrong doing at all.

It was cruel of Stewart to make blanket comments of suspicion and to make everyone wear the guilt, that if they were truthful with themselves they wouldn't agree to.

It was cruel of Stewart to himself live according to his flesh and impose upon us what he valued, namely his own flesh and his fleshly desires.

~ Rom 8:5 For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit.

It was cruel of Stewart to have brothers and sisters come to meetings only to oppress us with his interests, to curse us with his words and to prevent us from knowing the blessings of God's love.

It was cruel of Stewart to take our entire paychecks and then expect us to turn around and ask for a special request for our basic needs: is worse than communism.

~ Pro 28:16 A ruler who lacks understanding is a cruel oppressor; but he who hates unjust gain will prolong his days.

It was cruel of Stewart to take his false gospel into the impoverished country of Haiti and to impose his harsh views on the orphaned children and the people who came to assist who lived there.

It was cruel of Stewart to have young women come to your home when you had other designs in mind, that were not godly.

It was cruel of Stewart to set up a color code system to judge brothers and sisters according to his own assessment, when he had no sight into our hearts and minds.

It was cruel of Stewart to set up a "trip apartment" ostracizing and banishing brothers who were in our fellowship, leveling a curse upon them, labeling them "trips" and not extending forgiveness.

It was cruel of Stewart to set up and run a trip-box even at our Big Meetings, further proclaiming the state of oppression and condemnation, although these brothers contributed financially to our fellowship, when Stewart did not!

~ Eph 4:32 and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
~ Col 3:12, 13 Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, and patience, forbearing one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
~ Lk 17:4 and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, and says, 'I repent,' you must forgive him."

It was cruel of Stewart to justify segregation by using the color code system which he himself did not understand nor did the brothers and sisters who trusted themselves to your care.

It was cruel of Stewart to label some "black" that they were "living in sin" just because practically every "normal" thing we did or "wanted to do" was considered to be "sin" by you ~ if someone was tired and wanted to "take a nap" they could be said to be "living in sin" or "for their flesh" while Stewart didn't work at all and was considered "gold" and above reproach by all!

It was cruel of Stewart to "play the great man" before all of us, when there was nothing great about a man who used his self-proclaimed "authority" over us to boast of his own position as one who conned the people of God out of their own earnings, so that he could live highly and we could live in poverty.

It was cruel of Stewart to judge a majority of the brothers and sisters as "upper brown transient" which was supposed to mean that although we were "brown" or "living according to our human nature" but were "moving toward orange" our new nature and Christian life ~ I wish we actually were living according to our human nature and didn't allow such an old bully to push us into doing his own bidding, he who was most indulging his own flesh at our expense.

~ Eph 4:25 Therefore, putting away falsehood, let every one speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.
~ 1Co 1:28, 29 God chose what is low and despised in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are, so that no human being might boast in the presence of God.

It was cruel of Stewart to make false claims of confidence, stating that you alone had "all the answers" while in reality you were very far from any resemblance of Jesus, who we were all seeking to please.

It was cruel of Stewart to fill all of us with all of his suspicious doubting as he pawned it off on us and called it faith.

Cruel was your harshness.

Crule was your mockery.

Cruel was your injustice.

Cruel was your deception.

Cruel was your harassment.

Cruel was your condemnation.

Cruel was your nonacceptance of the sheep that were in your fold.

Cruel was your banishment of the brothers to the trip apartment.

Cruel was your anger.

Cruel was your mischief.

Cruel was your oppression.

Cruel was your vision of slavery that you called godliness.

It was cruel to promise us freedom only to make us slaves of your corruption.

Was it not corrupt of Stewart Traill to proclaim his own loyalty, while preying upon us with his own limitless desires and interests? Is this not cruel?

Was it not corrupt of Stewart Traill to prey upon the weak and push us to bring about his own empire, in the name of following Jesus? Is this not cruel?

Was it not corrupt of Stewart Traill to call our fellowship "God's best" when we were all deceived into doing the bidding of a mad king? Is this not cruel?

Was it not corrupt of Stewart Traill to make us believe that he alone knew God's will for all of us, when he admitted to missing the Grace of God for 25 years? Is this not cruel?

Was it not corrupt of Stewart Traill to deceive all of us and yet didn't have the humility to step down from his elevated stature among us? Is this not cruel?

It was cruel to confuse our view of God and Jesus for his own wicked purposes.

It was cruel to laugh at our misfortunes, which really had to do with "not doing Stewart's will" and had nothing to do with any failure to please God.

It was cruel to encourage us to laugh at each other.

It was cruel to turn all of his teachings on us as though we were lab rats, for him to use and abuse at his own discression.

It was cruel to use the color code against us and make some feel better than others, while most of us just felt judged.

~ 1Co 11:31 But if we judged ourselves truly, we should not be judged.

It was cruel that Stewart Traill's system didn't really take into account who a person was, but what his front was, as many who were considered "silver" were just more pushy than most.

It was cruel that some could get away with things that others could not.

It was cruel that "some older brothers" could one day lay down with a "woman of the street" and the next day have a seat next to Stewart, a seat of honor, at a meeting.

It was cruel that "some older brothers with tender consciounces" who felt compelled to confess their temptations to sin, but did not, ended up being forced to live in a trip apartment and be labeled "a trip" for their entire Christian life! Is this not cruel!

It was cruel that when we had success with leading people to Jesus, Stewart would mock us in front of our lambs and turn them away from trusting us, stealing their trust and putting us down in front of them and everyone else.

It was cruel that after doing that he would say that "WE were killing the lambs!"

It was cruel that when we had done something that gave us the feeling of "pleasing God" Stewart had a nasty way of crushing our joy, and making us wish we hadn't brought anyone to the meeting to begin with.

It was cruel that Stewart made people feel that if they didn't work hard they were not faithful, while he was the only one among us who didn't carry his own load.

It was cruel of Stewart to teach us to only see the negative parts of the scripture as it related to us.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us feel that we needed to be close to him to be faithful, but then would never allow most of us any access to him at all.

It was cruel of Stewart to accept all of our hard earned money, but he didn't even know most of us by name.

~Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

It was cruel of Stewart to make up names for some of us, and use his "made up names" when he referred to us at meetings.

It was cruel of Stewart to monopolize all of the most attractive women in our fellowship, lavishing his attentions on them, while preventing them from getting to know other brothers.

It was cruel of Stewart to walk into meetings with the women we had interest in and crushes on.

It was cruel to turn the sisters hearts against the brothers.

It was cruel of Stewart to encourage the sisters to make derogatory comments toward the brothers, provoking mischief and irritation.

It was cruel of Stewart to make the brothers think that the sisters were always trying to get over on them.

It was cruel of Stewart to cut down the brothers when talking to the sisters.

It was cruel of Stewart to cut down the sisters when talking to the brothers.

It was cruel of Stewart to make the sisters believe that only he was man enough for them.

It was cruel of Stewart to do all these evil things against us, yet act as though he was godly.

It was cruel to bless those that did evil.

It was cruel of Stewart to plot mischief against the brothers and sisters whose only interest was in seeking God.

It was cruel of Stewart to oppress those who only sought righteousness.

It was cruel of Stewart to condemn those who were more faithful to God than he was.

It was cruel to wickedly suppress any opposition.

It was cruel of Stewart to openly put down anyone who had the audacity to confront him.

It was cruel of Stewart to count those who opposed him "as trips."

It was cruel of Stewart to get most of the fellowship to side with him on all of his conclusions.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us think that we were sinning against God if we had any bad thoughts against Stewart.

It was cruel of Stewart to get everyones verbal agreements to anything that he presented.

It was cruel of Stewart to sway the affections of the group.

It was cruel of Stewart to let us languish in poverty while he lived in luxury, at our expense.

~Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us mistakenly think that it was what God wanted from us.

It was cruel of Stewart to always live five or more levels above us.

It was cruel of Stewart to live in a former governors home in Princeton, while we lived in "Hell's Kitchen" (before it was upgraded) or in Woodruff Brooklyn, a dangerous and filthy place.

It was cruel of Stewart to buy the Princeton house even though the brethren didn't approve it, yet as usual, Stewart Traill, pandering to his own flesh, once again, got his own way, at our expense, since he brought no income to the "general fund."

It was cruel of Stewart to sell the 515 NY City apartment building out from under everyone living there, kicking the sisters to the curb and then laughing at their misfortune.

It was cruel of Stewart to make the 515 sisters feel that it was their fault that they were homeless, though none of them had any control over their plight.

It was cruel of Stewart to expect the 515 sisters who were turned out to the street with their belongings, to find "other accomodations" when he had all the money we earned and we were given miniscule "allowances" from which no one could obtain proper housing.

It was cruel to insinuate openly that anyone who left Cobu was backsliding against Jesus.

It was cruel to fill our heads with empty hope only so that we would work harder in the businesses.

It was cruel to equate "success in the business" with faithfullness to God in any way.

It was cruel to setup harsh conditions to get basic things like underwear and socks.

It was cruel to blame every misfortune on us when Stewart was the architect and the planner of most things Cobu.

It was cruel for Stewart to equate "being committed to Jesus" with "being committed to one of Stewarts unreasonable expectations."

It was cruel of Stewart to then turn someones inability to "follow through" with one of "his unreasonable expectations" with an inabiltiy of that person to "be faithful to God."

It was cruel of Stewart to have young people who were overworked and unrested to have to sit for hours listening to him twist them up into making devilish confessions.

It was cruel of Stewart to make people confess that since they could not "do his bidding" that they must be "going to hell" and might as well "jump into the lake of fire" since they were faithless.

It was cruel of Stewart to encourage these unChristian and unholy confessions from young people who were easily manipulated against common sense.

It was cruel of Stewart to state that Cobu was "God's best" when it was far worse than any Christian church in any city.

It was cruel of Stewart to turn Cobu into a money machine to fill Stewarts treasure chest.

~ Mt 21:12, 13 And Jesus entered the temple of God and drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money-changers and the seats of those who sold pigeons. He said to them, "It is written, 'My house shall be called a house of prayer'; but you make it a den of robbers."
~ Mk 11:17 And he taught, and said to them, "Is it not written, 'My house shall be called a house of prayer for all the nations'? But you have made it a den of robbers."
~ Lk 19:45, 46 And he entered the temple and began to drive out those who sold, saying to them, "It is written, 'My house shall be a house of prayer'; but you have made it a den of robbers."
~ Mt 18:6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened round his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.
~ Mk 9:42 "Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung round his neck and he were thrown into the sea.
~ Mt 23:4 They bind heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on men's shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with their finger.

It was cruel of Stewart to force young Christians to have to decide if they were going to hell or not by making them state aloud that they were chosing to "jump into the lake of fire" just because they couldn't find it within themselves to continue to work at the hopeless situation that was Cobu.

It was cruel of Stewart to instill "a hive mentality" and to use "undue influence" on us in countless ways.

It is cruel of Stewart Traill to castrate the brothers by taking away their manhood, by not allowing the men to lead, not allowing men to keep the funds they earned, not allowing men to make their own discisions finanacially, not allowing them to have their own ideas, putting them down in front of the sisters time and time again, so that they doubted their own self worth.

It was cruel of Stewart Traill to put others down continually and puff himself up.

It was a cruelty to take away our hope.

It was cruel of Stewart to have suppress our normal desires such as marriage and make us feel guilty for having normal, human desires.

It was cruel of Stewart to prevent us from obtaining things God gladly grants his people.

~ Gen 2:24, 25 Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed.
~ Pro 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.

It was cruel of Stewart to flaunt before the body his second wife Gayle, and his half-wives, and the many young women who were subject to Stewarts "special attention."

It was cruel of Stewart to make it a Biblical mandate to "crucify the flesh" in the name of the Lord, and equate that with not dating or marrying, while he indulged his flesh continually.

It is and was cruel of Stewart to keep God's people captive to himself, to make them serve his whims, when it was in his power to release them.

It is and was cruel of Stewart Traill to put someone down, time and time again, and to get them to actually believe that what you said about them was as if the Lord were speaking it to them through you.

It is and was cruel of Stewart to deceive those in Cobu with his false views of them and God.

It is and was cruel of Stewart to insist upon perfection, when the only perfect person that walked the earth was Jesus Christ, and Stewart Traill is nothing like him.

It is and was cruel of Stewart to make everyone go out into severe weather to do "zeal pills" witnessing or hand out tracts, only to bring the unsuspecting into our misfortune, which was the constant service of a cruel man, who only took thought for himself.

~Jer 22:13 "Woe to him who builds his house by unrighteousness, and his upper rooms by injustice; who makes his neighbor serve him for nothing, and does not give him his wages.

It was cruel to the brothers to have Gayle dressed in spandex , draped across Stewarts lap, on a hotel bed, and to then tell the brothers: "You could have this too, if only you had spare zeal!"

It was cruel to have us live in squalor, with broken windows and roaches, while Stewart lived in luxury at our expense.

It was cruel that we had to eat warm sub sandwiches and pudding at big meetings, while Stewart went to the diner, with funds our labors provided him with!

Stewart Traill's double standards were cruel.

It was cruel of Stewart to mock others and say that it was for their good.

It was cruel of Stewart to use Christian icons, such as Richard Wurmbrand and Harlan Popov to further his own evil plans.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us believe that all his writings, tracks, lamb books etc. were inspired by God, when all the lessons pointed to entrusting ourselves to him and not to God.

It was cruel of Stewart to make us give all of our money then to have to we ask for a "special request" for our personal needs.

It was cruel of Stewart to use the starving children in Haiti as a beating club, to keep us focused on making more money; that Stewart had the final say in how it was spent.

It was cruel of Stewart to tell us that "Jesus never had it so good" referring to the lofts, when we had legitimate complaints about our living situations.

It was cruel to have brothers discipline his child, who equated "crying" with being "broken" when Stewart "gave harder beatings if his children cried."

It was cruel of Stewart to even let others take a hand to his children.

It was cruel for Stewart to draw us to himself, when we were impressionable young people.

It was cruel that we were not allowed to reference the outside world, only the Bible or the approved reading material.

It was cruel to put burdens and tasks that he requested of us, that he would never do!

It was cruel that we had no way to express ourselves, our talents and our abilities.

It was cruel to play husbands against the wives, brothers against the sisters.

It was cruel to parade a harem of sisters in front of everyone, who brothers wanted to date, but were practically unable to even speak to.

It was cruel of Stewart not to talk to his own children when they called for him, but to make them talk to "the appointed sister" when all they wanted to do was talk to their dad.

It was cruel that we couldn't honestly express ourselves.

It was cruel to make others feel less valuable.

It was cruel to point out others weakness in front of everyone.

It was cruel that we were made to stay up for meetings when we had to wake up early the next morning to go to our jobs, when Stewart didn't have that obligation and could sleep as late as he wanted.

It was cruel that we couldn't rest when we needed to.

It was cruel to make us feel guilty for resting.

It was cruel to make everyone work for nothing, with no vacations, when Stewart took plenty of them, to the Bahamas, to Canada, wherever he wanted to fly of to, with whoever he chose to take with him.

It is cruel to use the Lord, to get others to do what you wanted us to do for yourself.

~ Psa 71:4 Rescue me, O my God, from the hand of the wicked, from the grasp of the unjust and cruel man.
~ Psa 144:11 Rescue me from the cruel sword, and deliver me from the hand of aliens, whose mouths speak lies, and whose right hand is a right hand of falsehood.
~ Pro 11:17 A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself.
~ Pro 12:10 A righteous man has regard for the life of his beast, but the mercy of the wicked is cruel.
~ Pro 28:16 A ruler who lacks understanding is a cruel oppressor; but he who hates unjust gain will prolong his days.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you inflated your ego and you inflated the egos of your people, into thinking that our group was Christian, when you neglected the values of Christ and Christianity and taught everyone else to do so.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you provoked those in your charge.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you brow beat brothers and sisters as if it were your right.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you called the "Grace Meeting" but refused to allow brothers and sisters to freely express themselves.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you, cut off those who questioned you at the supposed "Grace Meeting."

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you called meetings that you neglected to gather together with those who came for the meeting.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you, blammed God for your inability to recognize the Grace of God, who is Jesus.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you subjected young women in your group to your "special attention."

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when the young women in your group, who are subjected to you "special attention" get put aside when you move on to someone else.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when the young women you gave your "special attention" to were disallusioned and unable to form healthy relationships with others after your questionable influence.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you insult brothers who had done no wrong.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you disqualify those who are supporting you and everyone else financially.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you claimed you didn't know Jesus, the Grace of God, yet continued to make everyone sit under you.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you blamed brothers and sisters for not making you aware of the Grace of God, pretty hard to do when you've never opened your ear to hear anyone, but yourself.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you blamed God, and you blamed others, but denied your own culpability in a host of matters.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you expected a blanket free pass from everyone with regard to your indiscretions.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you expected everyone to give you awe and reverence after admitting that you have no true insight.

You were cruel Stewart Tanner Traill when you made light of every vile practice that you expressed before the fellowship, while you condemned others who had no guilt.

~ Job 6:14 "He who withholds kindness from a friend forsakes the fear of the Almighty.
~ Pro 21:21 He who pursues righteousness and kindness will find life and honor.
~ Hos 4:1 Hear the word of the LORD, O people of Israel; for the LORD has a controversy with the inhabitants of the land. There is no faithfulness or kindness, and no knowledge of God in the land;
~ Mic 6:8 He has showed you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?
~ Zec 7:8 And the word of the LORD came to Zechariah, saying,
~ Zec 7:9, 10 "Thus says the LORD of hosts, Render true judgments, show kindness and mercy each to his brother, do not oppress the widow, the fatherless, the sojourner, or the poor; and let none of you devise evil against his brother in your heart."
~ Act 28:2 And the natives showed us unusual kindness, for they kindled a fire and welcomed us all, because it had begun to rain and was cold.

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